Whatever your children want to achieve, they will have better chances of living that dream if you provide support for it early on.
In helping children achieve their dreams, parents must first know what those dreams are. The forthright child will happily state ambition and a less chatty one will probably just go off and draw, play a musical instrument, sing, kick a ball around, or read a book. To learn what your children want to be when we grow up, you must both communication with and observe them.
Florina Castillo, director of the Philippine High School for the Arts, advises parents and guardians to ‘’listen to the children, take time to talk to them about what they want out life and what they want to be in life,’’
It is not enough to just get access to art, dance, or music lessons, or writing workshop for an artistically inclined child; tutors for scientists in progress or to summer sports clinic for athletes in training, The parent or guardian must also know that these lessons, which are auxiliary education to the lessons your child actually wants.
‘’ Forcing a child’s gifts to bloom is not the way to bring out the best in a child,’’ Castillo says. ‘’ you must follow and support their interest.’’ Do not push your children along the path of your own achievements or ambitions rather let them lead the way to their goals.
Once you have established what skills your children seek to develop, support their journey to achievement with the appropriate lessons from a trained professional, or teach them yourself if you have the skills and time to do so.
Be genuine interested in their progress as well by attending recitals and sports meets and by listening to their stories about how their lessons went. Provide insight and constructive criticism and, most of all, listen to them well.
Be honest with your child when he discusses ambition or goals with you. If he wants to be a scientist but his science subject suffers from his lack of attention, gently remind him that he has to work and learn discipline to master the sciences before he can become the scientist he want to be. Ditto for sports and the arts. If he is good at something but lack encouragement, provide that encouragement.[pq]Coordinate with your child’s school and teachers in developing the gifts he wants to focus on.[/pq]
Schools have programs and support systems for children who excel in the arts, sciences, and sports. Also be sure you child gets support from his school for areas of learning that may suffer as a result of his focusing on one or more skills.
If your child is good at sports but weak in math, encourage him to still learn math anyway; a track team runner will still have to mentally measure the distance he must run and that means knowing math well enough to calculate the speed at which he needs to run a given distance to win a race.
A child who likes math but doesn’t like PE will still have to keep his body healthy with exercise and a proper diet so his mind will function at the level necessary to mentally solve complex problems.
What kids want to be when they grow up:
1) Doctor (15 percent)
2) Nurse (12 percent)
3) Teacher (11 percent)
There are also specialized schools for children who excel in the arts or in the sciences, such as the PHSA and various sciences high school, such as the Philippine Science High School (PSHS), Manila Science High School (MSHS) and the like.
If you are on a shoestring budget, find creative ways to keep your child’s interest even with limited materials. A budding artist, dancer, scientist, and writer can actually learn more from being taught to use what is available within the household than by being fully equipped from the get-go.[pq]Your child must learn perseverance-how to get up and try again if an attempt to learn a skill or achieve a goal fails.[/pq]
This requires you to be there to help your child through disappointments and difficulties and be a source of emotional support as much as possible.
Turn each setback into an opportunity to learn, so your child will know it is not the end of the world if he does not succeed at something on the first, second, or tenth try. Remember that the difference between a winner and a loser is that the winner knows how to get up when he falls down.
Finally, celebrate each success and each small achievement, because each goal attained is always a win, no matter how small it may seem. It takes several small steps to get to a destination, and each successfully taken step is worth a celebration. Encourage your child, give him a small treat, a smile, and a warm hug.